Let’s Recap: 2023 and its lessons.
Reflecting on 2023, it’s been a year filled with diverse experiences and personal growth. Navigating the challenges and celebrating the victories, I’ve learned valuable lessons that have shaped my perspective. From professional milestones to personal revelations, each moment has contributed to the unique tapestry of this year.
2023 wasn’t a smooth year, but it’s a good one, it’s a year filled with so many bitter-sweet experiences — one moment you are weeping over something lost, the next moment there are situations around to bring amusement, giving you a few minutes away from your bothers.
- Being a good girl wouldn’t fetch you good things.
I was birth into a Christian home, and my mother of her blessed memories ensured all her children were brought up in the image of God.
She taught me to be good, so I would attract a good husband and receive constant blessings from God for being pure with myself.
As an adult, I’ve got to realize that good fortune or a partner is not a result of being a good girl — Yeah, a good girl gives you purity, but it wouldn’t automatically fetch you all the good things you feel you deserve, you need to fetch/attract/drag and be worthy of all things good.
A good lifestyle will not give you what your hard work would — if you want a good man position yourself in places where a tendency to get a good man is more likely than not getting a good one.
If you feel you deserve a soft life, you must learn to work 10 times harder than you do to be a good girl.
2. It’s okay to make a mistake.
In a world that often emphasizes perfection, acknowledging and learning from mistakes becomes a powerful tool for self-discovery. It allows us to refine our skills, enhance decision-making, and ultimately become more adept individuals.
2023 comes with a lot of reflection and self-actualization. I got a complete rethink of my life this year. it was a 360 reflection of what my life has been thus far. However, there were times I kept asking myself a lot of questions; what have you been doing Jessica?
Why didn’t you do this?
Why were you so dumb to date this guy?
Why did you make such a terrible decision?
Are you cursed?
Especially in March, I spent the whole of my birthday week retrospecting about my twenties and all the mistakes I made on my journey to being thirty and the years before 2023 — I learned to accept my imperfections, understanding that mistakes are not setbacks but opportunities for progress and also celebrate the wisdom gained from every misstep, knowing that each mistake is a stepping stone toward becoming my best selves. So far, Those mistakes are what have shaped my life and brought Me this far.
3. You don’t always get what you deserve.
Life has a curious way of unfolding, and at times, it doesn’t always align with what one might perceive as deserving. Despite putting in hard work, dedication, and sincerity, outcomes may not necessarily mirror expectations — Life in movies and Novels is quite different from what reality unfolds. While making plans for the future, let your plan B be “whatever the universe throws at me”
The realization that one doesn’t always get what one deserves can be a humbling and perplexing aspect of the journey. It prompts introspection, fostering a deeper understanding of the unpredictable nature of life. In these moments, it becomes essential to embrace resilience, acknowledge the unpredictability of circumstances, and continue navigating the path with determination and an open mind.
Don’t be too fixated with those dreams of yours, be open to the possibility of what the universe might surprise you with, so you won’t be disappointed when you don’t get the things you feel you deserve.
4. Love
I completely made myself free from the thought and hope of finding love in 2023 and marveled at the peace that decision brought — the opportunities and connections, the journey towards a romantic connection has been a unique challenge, just like other years, love didn’t find me, but in 2023 I made peace with it.
While the search for love may not have yielded the desired results, this year has taught me valuable lessons about patience, resilience, and the importance of self-love. It’s a reminder that personal growth and fulfillment come from within, and finding the right connection takes time.
5. Being Selfish is okay too.
I grew up being that girl who lets people walk on her, I was a huge people pleaser, I just wanted people to be happy knowing me, be comfortable being with me, and see me as the trophy to their happiness — but the level of shege that I saw and experienced gave me a default setting.
in 2023, I concentrated on myself more, my peace, my happiness, and my sanity, before the situation pressed my neck, I don voice out! — I didn’t give anyone access to the source of my joy, I alone knew what it was and I milked it to my satisfaction.
I experienced selfishness, I had a taste of it, and believe me, it’s the best feeling and medicine to feed your sanity. Everybody wants to take, collect, and utilize what you are willing to offer, but don't give a hinge to what you the provider want in return.
I got tired of being the giver and sat in the seat of a receiver — I don't think I want to be that person anymore. I deserve to be taken care of too!
With the lessons learned and memories gathered in the past year, I embark on this journey of 2024 with a sense of purpose and resilience.
cheers to 2024!!!!
The girl with the voice of a hummingbird..
